Anger is one of the four fundamental human emotions (mad, sad, glad, scared) and is not something I do well.
I have lately been fussing with Cohiba a bit, and this is really uncharted territory for me. I did not grow up with models who fought, got angry or resolved things in a respectful way. My father did what he wanted – even when it hurt his family – and fuck you for being mad about it. You don’t count.
My mom did what a battered wife did to protect herself and her child and still express herself. She mostly took it out of herself, one time on me, and then passive-aggressively lashed out at him.
Cohiba and I have been mad at each other before, and each time, I’ve stumbled over myself trying to figure out what and how to do it. I took a different path this time with him, and we’ll see how it goes. I’m afraid it’s not effective.
What do I mean by effective?
That the thing I’m angry about won’t get resolved.
So I guess I know how to be angry, I just don’t know how to express it, control it and harness it.
What could I harness it for? What is the point of anger?
It lets us know when our personal sense of justice is violated, right? Is that it? But it doesn’t right the wrong.
So what is the point of anger? What do you think?