Weekend Coffee Share #22


If we were having coffee, you would wander in slowly. You had a rough night last night, but a lot of fun. I was happy to hear details about your trip to a party your husband’s coworker threw, and I was happy to get you a coffee. And speaking of party, 

If we were having coffee, I would remind you of those guys who were barbecuing last weekend and had the loud party and woke me up… I saw one of them do something yesterday that really bothered me.  They were playing with the neighbor’s kids again, water fights, but it was almost all the kids in the apartment complex having a water fight with these guys. The thing is, there are like five of these guys and some are better than others. On the good end, one is patient and kind to the kids, helping them out even as they were “adversaries,” talking friendly smack. On the bad end, they were cursing at the kids and bullying them.

There was one girl in particular; and I’ve seen her around for awhile. She’s not as liked as the other girls, though I know she wants to be. She’s the tallest and she’s Indian, to name just a few differences, and it’s hard to be different.

One of the guys was bitching her out for being rough with a younger kid. She was trying to apologize, talk to the younger kid and trying to take responsibility, but this asshole wouldn’t stop badgering her. He was actually cussing at her. He’s a grown ass man, getting into the kid’s stuff, and bullying her.

I was disgusted and also a little convicted – should I do something, I wondered? I was bullied as a kid, even by some adults. Would I have wanted intervention? I didn’t end up doing anything, though I did get the Wee One out of there. I didn’t want her seeing such crap. I know I can’t spare her from it forever, but I’ll probably try.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that the crochet project I am working on is not coming along like I had hoped. I am not able to crochet as often as I would like, with the Wee One. I’m afraid my friends won’t let me sell anything with them. Maybe I will just give The baby her own ball of yarn to play with-like a cat.

You giggle, and then you wince. Yeah, I’ve been there.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you how, on Saturday night, I was kind of hoping those guys, the bullies, would again throw a party so loud I could call the cops. Cohiba said “You’re in the ‘I wish a motherfucker would’ mode.”  

Oh yeah, and that  night, after we left dinner, I had black beans smeared by my ear-the Wee One is beginning to leave a trail behind her wherever she goes. I had trusted food on the front of my shirt, because she puts her open mouth on my chest. (Wanting to nurse) My kid is subtle.

My Top Ten Favorite Things Right Now

This is a list of 10 things I really love right now.  I will not say I’m “obsessed,” because I hate the overuse of that word (I have seen obsession, and this is not it), but they are things I really appreciate in my life right now, in no particular order.

  1. The drive through at Starbucks. I love being able to drive through and get coffee. So easy.
  2. The pool at the gym I just joined – I joined a gym! I’ve never done that before, but it has childcare, so the Wee One is tended to for up to two hours. I have started swimming thi week and love it. This accomplishes one of the goals on my 52/52 challenge.
  3. My ergo. I’ve loved it since I had it. It’s quick, easy, and keeps my hands free while I hold and love of my Wee One. (It’s also valuable and useful for Syrian refugees, as used by the Carry The Future organization. If you have an extra carrier no longer in use, I highly recommend this organization.)
  4. My crothet hooks. I’ve started making some things I hope I can sell with some friends who are vendors in a few Ren Fairs in the Midwest.
  5. Pens for drawing zentangle. Which I haven’t been doing as much, in favor of doing the above.
  6. This computer for writing. Which, again, I haven’t been doing much of in favor of crocheting, and of doing the following:
  7. Candy Mania – It’s one of those Candy Crush-like games that you can download onto your iPhone, but the other week when I was dying with the stomach flu, it kept me company and entertained.
  8. Giving the Wee One her bedtime bottle. It’s the first part of her bedtime routine and we sit in the recliner and watch something. Since she doesn’t take as many bottles, she doesn’t sit in my lap and eat like she used to. This is one last warm and snuggly little time. For a second, I thought about getting rid of it, but for right now, I’m not going to fix what isn’t broken!
  9. The Kindermusik class I go to with the Wee One. After about a month, she has become more comfortable crawling around and interacting with other babies and the teacher, which I like to see, and it helps me learn different ways to interact with her, to play with her. And she likes music, so it’s good. The teacher is kind of weird, and I get the feeling that it’s like a posh little club and you’re lucky to get in, but still.
  10. My mom squad. I have a squad. 38 years old and I have a squad. But we’re an awesome team, particularly for only having known each other for several months and for having four toddlers to look after.

Weekend Coffee Share #8


If we were having coffee, you wouldn’t have sat down before you asked me about the craft fair I did on Thursday. Oh Lord, I begin. What an experience. In your haste, you drop a large bit of coffee cake on your lap and have to run over to get a napkin. But you gesture for me to keep going, and I tell you about how small I felt when I first got there.

The tables were all the same size, but they were all decorated and looked huge. There were displays with cloths hanging off of them, and arrangements set up in the front of the tables. I just had a small selection of crocheted coffee sleeves with a few fingerless gloves. I did have a sign I drew and looks pretty cool, and you say something encouraging to that and ask if I sold anything. I sold enough to make up the price of the table and $5 more.  That’s a good thing! you say encouragingly, and ask me if I’m going to do another one. I’m not sure, I say, though I learned a lot in this experience, so if I do, I’ll be better prepared.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you about the girl who was at the table next to me, Rachel – really cool with awesome hair. It was a little dreaded and went down to her waist. She was easy to talk to and invited me to another fair she’s hosting at her ballet studio next weekend.

She had a number of different items she was selling, not just one thing, which gave me the idea that I could sell an assortment of things I made. Are there other things you want to make? You ask me. I talk about the sign I had made; I had included some Zendoodle-inspired drawings around the letters, and I had been thinking about doing some drawings to sell. I told Rachel as much, and she suggested drawing them on cards to sell so then people can either buy them to give or to frame. You agree that was very cool of her. I ordered some plain cards on Amazon that night.  You’ll have to make me something! you insist, and I promise I will.

Oh, and another thing! I tell you that an article I wrote for SheKnows was run, and that was exciting. Now I have earned the Experts Among Us badge on my blog. 🙂 It was a week of doing new things, and its good.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you about the playdate I had at my house yesterday. I have friends in Washington! I say excitedly. And our apartment is so clean. Not only did I vacuum, Cohiba and I got things really cleaned and thing put in places, so kind of organized.  It’ll look better once we get the furniture we’re planning to get (once the reimbursement check comes from the move) but it is so much better.I also went to a holiday thing with some other mom friends, and went into the trenches with them as one of the babies threw up on her mom. We all worked together to clean up our friend and monitor the other babies – it was fun.

This was a wonderful week of new things, and its good.



Tiny small wee business opportunity?

The coolest thing just happened!  I work in a city, moderately sized, and there are several coffee joints nearby.  I also knit/crochet in my spare time, and I talked to one of the places about selling crocheted coffee coozies (cosies, whatevs), and they said yes!  I was so nervous to bring it up to them, but they said okay!

I didn’t even think about this part, but the owner brought up that Christmas and stuff is coming close, and the people that work in the nearby business buildings often have holiday parties and other gift-giving sessions, so they might need something quickly.  She said, “You could put it into a nice kind of packaging…” The kind of stuff I hadn’t even thought of!

Now my mind is all abuzz with packaging and color ideas.  I’m excited!