“The heart has its reasons, which reason does not know.”
This passage by Blaise Pascal came to my mind the other day as I was listening to a podcast on toddler tantrums. The Wee One isn’t a toddler yet, and is only starting to voice her displeasure when she doesn’t get something she wants. I’m still able to distract her and she moves along quite easily.
I was eating a banana the other day, which normally, we love to share. Bananas are hard on baby’s digestive systems, though, and I didn’t share any with her. I dread the day that she will react to something like this with spittle and wailing and arched back. I fear that I am not equipped to respond to her with love and patience.
As I was thinking and praying about this time, how I might be able to handle it, this quote came to my mind, and I thought it might be a good analogy for me and my Wee One. In this parallel, I am the Heart, and the Wee One is Reason. And I have reasons for saying yes or no which reason knows not. She may be furious with me for not sharing my banana, but I have reasons which she knows not, nor would she understand. Maybe thinking of that will help me handle a tantrum with grace. Parents, what did you learn about handling tantrums?